We are sacred

Recently, I had the privilege of researching some of the Native American views on women. As we go forward in our journey of domestic violence and sexual assault awareness, in an effort to prevent it, I looked into some Native American views. I realize that domestic abuse and sexual abuse happens to men and children also, but for this particular article I wanted to share the Native American feelings on women.

Domestic and sexual violence was originally not part of Native life and it was never tolerated. Women were honored and considered sacred as life and care givers. Traditions, ceremonies, songs and prayers, respect the mind, body, spirit and integrity of all people. As nurturers of women, we (Native Americans) share this information and such truths with our friends, sisters, and relatives.

Here are some questions you may ask yourself to check for a Balanced Relationship or an Unbalanced Relationship.

Are you in a balanced relationship? Does your partner honor your family and friends? Is your partner kind and loving? Does your partner value your decisions and opinions? Does your partner appreciate your traditions, culture and spirituality? Is your partner respectful of your path as equal and as important as theirs? If your answer is “yes” to all of these questions, you are likely in a balanced relationship.

Are you in an Unbalanced Relationship? Does your partner control who you see, including friends, family and spiritual leaders? Does your partner make you have sex when you do not want to? Is your partner twisting tradition to prove they are better and you are nothing? Does your partner shame you in front of family? Does your partner make you drink or do drugs to have sex with you? If you answered “yes” to even one of these questions, your health spirit and safety may be in danger. Talk to someone you trust, a relative, friend, advocate or healthcare provider. Remember it is not your fault you are not alone.